Dear World, Women Deserve More Than One Day of Love

Ah, Valentine’s Day. The one day a year where the world collectively decides to shower women with flowers, chocolates, and grand romantic gestures. Suddenly, appreciation is in the air, and love is loud. But here’s the thing—one day isn’t enough. Not even close.

Because women? We don’t just exist for a single calendar day of admiration. We are the backbone, the caregivers, the nurturers, the ones who hold it all together—365 days a year. Yet, somehow, society has the audacity to think that a heart-shaped box of chocolates makes up for the endless, unseen sacrifices we make.

Women Give, Give, and Give—Until We’re Empty

Women are wired (or, let’s be real, conditioned) to put others first. We instinctively nurture, support, and make sure everyone else is okay before even considering our own needs. And heaven forbid we put ourselves first for once—because if we do, suddenly, we’re labeled as selfish, cold-hearted bitches.

Want to chase your dreams? Selfish.
Want a break from being everything to everyone? Ungrateful.
Want to prioritize your happiness? Must be a witch.

It’s exhausting. And unfair.

And Then There’s the Valentine’s Day Pressure…

Let’s be honest—haven’t we all felt that weird, almost embarrassing pressure of not having a date on Valentine’s Day? Like suddenly, we’re worth less as women because there isn’t someone standing next to us holding a bouquet? And guess who’s reinforcing that nonsense? Sometimes, it’s our own sisters.

Instead of lifting each other up, some women turn Valentine's Day into a competition—who got the biggest flowers, the fanciest dinner, the most extravagant “I love you” performance. And if you’re not in the game? They laugh, they whisper, they throw pitying glances like you’re somehow incomplete.

Well, I call bullshit. That’s not real happiness. That’s not real identity. That’s a charade—fake joy wrapped in shiny red ribbons. If love is only as deep as the grand gestures made for Instagram, what even is the point?

Time to Change the Narrative

Instead of waiting for validation from someone else, let’s make Valentine's Day something entirely different—a second birthday. A day where YOU celebrate YOU.

Imagine this:

✨ Breakfast in bed (because, duh, you deserve it).
✨ A spa day—sauna, massage, facial, the works.
✨ Mani/pedi, waxing, hairstyling, maybe even a little facelift—why not?
✨ Shopping spree—treat yourself, no guilt allowed.
✨ A dinner full of your absolute favorite foods, with no one to judge.
✨ And some more shopping, just because it feels damn good.

And the best part? Doing it all while feeling completely yourself, totally content, and loving every second of it. Because if you’d rather spend the day hiking, painting, binge-watching your favorite series, or taking a spontaneous solo trip—then DO THAT. The point is, this day should be yours, on your terms.

So, How Do We Do Both?

How do we continue to be the loving, compassionate, powerhouse women we are while also following our hearts unapologetically? Because the truth is—we are layered. We can be strong and soft, ambitious and nurturing, independent and deeply connected.

But society loves its little labels, and it struggles when women refuse to fit neatly into one.

So, let’s challenge the norm. Let’s normalize women being cherished, respected, appreciated, and supported EVERY SINGLE DAY. Let’s build a world where love isn’t confined to a single date on the calendar but is a daily practice—both for others and for ourselves.

But the real question is—how do we make this shift? How do we honor our own desires while still being the caring, loving women we are?

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Let’s start this conversation because, ladies, we deserve better.